Brothers
I mentioned the other day that the most frequent question we (well,more me I think) were getting from people was whether or not we are disappointed that we are having another boy.
People who barely know us have given looks of what seems like sympathy when we say we are having another boy. People have asked whether we are planning for a third baby, despite the fact that we haven’t even welcomed our second yet. And if I here one more time how much more fun it is to buy little girl clothes, I might scream (not that I don’t agree…but seriously. Who bases their excitement on having a baby on buying clothes?).
For several weeks with this baby, I thought that I might be having a girl. Just because of the differences in the early stages of pregnancy. I didn’t even really think too much about having another boy and did do a lot of looking at little girl clothes, car seats and bedding.
But somewhere after around week 15 my mind started to change. I started to feel more like maybe, just maybe, I’d be welcoming another sweet boy into the world. I follow a lot of mama’s who are raising just boys and their stories of the bonds between brothers melt my heart. Noah’s energetic and adventurous and full of energy. He’s into super heroes and action figures and cars and sports. He is a barrel of energy 99.9% of the time (the other .1% is the time in which he sleeps). The idea of him having a best friend..a buddy…a playmate to entertain him, share stories with, and burn energy with makes my mama heart excited.
And much like Mandi mentioned when she wrote a similar post about raising boys, I truly feel like the world is lacking in good guys. I lucked out when I married my husband and scored a man who is both humble and strong willed. One who isn’t afraid to help in the kitchen and one who loves to get his hands dirty in the yard. He’s everything that I want my sons to be. And as a mother, there is so much that I want to teach them.
I want to raise boys with a work ethic and morals. Boys who aren’t afraid to chase after their dreams. Boys who have big ambitions and drive and desire to accomplish things in life. I want to raise boys into men who respect women and know how to treat them. Men who love their wives and their children and respect what family is supposed to be. Men who keep their word and contribute to our society. Men with strong conviction and courage. Raising God fearing men who know their place in the family is important to me; and I think that’s why I’ve been chosen to raise these boys.
So even though I may not get to browse the dresses and frilly underwear or spend a small fortune on hair bows, I’m over the moon excited about being a boy mama. I have no sense of disappointment or regret or sadness or whatever people think I’m supposed to feel that this baby is a boy.
Because I know that I’m being blessed with two boys for a reason.
And I have the fullest intention of taking advantage of that responsibility.
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Ok so this may not happen to you, buy boy (no pun intended) some things jut come out of my mouth when I meet other mommies…like I hate awkward silence and asking, “do you want more kids? Do you want a girl? Was that one planned?” oh yes!! Now is or shall I say when someone asks me I’m all “who do they…” 🙂
I just met a pregnant mama today and the amount of personal info shared in a 30 minute convo..how many kids we want, how we has to have lots of sex so we wouldn’t be induced, how she secretly wants a boy and not another girl etc.
I think sometimes when someone sees a pregnant mama they just ask obvious, albeit personal question bc they are actually trying to be nice. they want to mention the baby and since it’s in the womb there’s only so much to say, so they start probing deeper trying to be friendly!
I agree. I think sometimes the questions are genuine concern and excitement for the mama to be. 🙂 And I can usually tell which people are concerned and want to get excited about our baby and which ones are just being rude. LOL 🙂
Courtney – such a beautiful post, and a great read for other boy mamas!
Thank you so much, Kelly!! 🙂
Love my boys! And, they are always fun to photograph. 🙂
Who doesn’t love photographing a handsome little boy? 🙂
Speaking of odd things people say… I linked to your “things not to say…” post on my blog today! I don’t know what people are thinking sometimes. However, I do know of some who have been less than thrilled over their gender reveal. They sulked their entire pregnancy and then fell in love with their baby immediately at birth. I think we need to be simply grateful for each gift – no matter what’s on the wish list. Folks can be bold!!
I know some people who have been like that, too. It’s so sad and it truthfully breaks my heart to read about mama’s to be who aren’t excited about having a baby just because they didn’t get the gender they “wanted.” I have an acquaintance who was devastated that she wasn’t having a girl…she griped and complained and whined the whole pregnancy. Ugh.
Raising boys is an awesome responsibility – the men of our future! You’re going to love that baby boy more than you can imagine!
Thank you, Meagan! I can’t imagine how much more I will love BOTH of my boys when Jonah gets here!
Love this!! Couldn’t have said it better myself!
Thanks, Sarah! 🙂
I felt similarly when we found out that baby #2 was another sweet girl. I get told how awful the teen years are going to be with two daughters, how much they will bicker, etc. When baby #3 was a boy EVERYONE (strangers included) say, “You FINALLY got that boy! I bet your husband is so relieved!” And others asking if we are done, simply because we have a boy. When I didn’t seem “excited enough” by having a boy (I was happy, truly, just annoyed at everyone else) I was asked, “You didn’t SERIOUSLY WANT another girl?!” Um, no, I wanted a baby, THANK YOU. People are strange.
Agreed. We wanted a BABY. A healthy child; be it a boy or a girl. Sure, I’d love to have boys and girls, but if we never have another? It’s not going to upset me a bit.