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I think we all reach a point where start to wonder whether or not we will actually reach whatever goal it is we’ve been striving for. Whether we’re aiming at healthy living, weight loss, opening a business, mending a broken relationship…sooner or later, we start to question whether or not our hard work is going to pay of.
We plateau. We flatten out. We climb and climb and climb, never quite reaching the top, and then trudge along steadily. Never feeling like we’re moving forward. Almost like we’re walking in place.
I’ve been there. Heck, some days I’m still there. Wanting to move forward, feeling driven and propelled to chase down and tackle my life goals and ambitions…only to have the rug yanked out from under me. For me to fall on my face, stumble and end up where I started at.
The husband and I were talking the other day about life and how far our marriage, our family, and our lives in general have come since early 2008 when we set out on this journey together. Most days, it feels like we’ve been together for far longer than three (going on four) years. We hit a pretty big rut during that first year. Financially, emotionally…it was hard. We struggled to get to know each other, adjust to life as husband and wife, a new military family, and find our balance as parents.
2008, despite our wedding and the birth of our son, just wasn’t a good year for us.
2009, was kind of half and half…it had it’s ups and downs, it’s good and bad. Same with 2010.
But 2011, so far, has been pretty great. The husband and I, after spending so much time apart last year, are finding our flow…our rhythm as a couple. We don’t get it all right. We don’t get along all the time…but we’ve made progress.
I think, in the end, that’s what counts.
Whether it’s in life, in marriage or in weight-loss/healthy living…making a conscious effort day in and day out to get to where you want to be is what matters.
Digging and digging, clawing your way from the bottom to the top, no matter what obstacles you encounter and what strongholds you have to face…that’s the aspect of life that builds character. It’s what creates courage, integrity and perseverance.
Even when it feels like I’m taking two steps forward and one step back, I keep pressing on. I keep moving forward.
Because in the end, one way or another, we reach our destination.
It may not be the same destination we had in mind when we started, but we get there…to the place we are supposed to be…the place we need to be, inevitably.
I forgot to weigh this morning before I ate breakfast. And really haven’t slowed down long enough to step on the scale this week. I would guesstimate that I’ve lost maybe a pound, if that. I’ve been under my calorie goal all week. But if you want to see what I’ve been up to this week, make sure you visit Laura @ Mommy Miracles…my lovely co-host and friend. Her blog has a snazzy new look you’ll want to see!
Now it’s your turn! Laura and I are both on a journey toward healthy living and getting fit. And in the process we’re learning to love ourselves and accept who we’ve been created to be. We’d love to have you join us!
Write a post about whatever you want—diet, exercise, healthy habits and choices (whether they pertain to weight-loss or not)…the sky is pretty much the limit, although we do try to focus on healthy lifestyles…whether it be mind, body or soul.
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This was a really nice post. I was thinking of writing something about being happy with where you are right now – to realize that life’s a journey – and I think what you’ve written here ties into that. Looking back at some of the wanker things we’ve done kind of sucks, but it’s great to be able to measure our progress too.
My husband and I have had many ups and downs in our almost 5 years of marriage but we keep going. Life is hard sometimes but we just have to make a committed effort to not let it get us down.
I agree. I think the best thing that we did when we got married was set the rule and agree that divorce was never going to be an option. That no matter what happens between us, we will get through it. Together.
What a good post, what a great question. It is I believe, worth it. Every relationship goes through changes, challenges and compromises…we have to want to get through them and move into a better place. I see this a lot since we had our sons..we were close when we got married and through our infertility and my IVF high risk pregnancy but parenting is so hard….it is taking more patience and compromise with one another than I could have imagined. I wasn’t expecting this would be the challenging part…but every day we work At it and learn new things and move on.
Great great post!
Parenting IS hard, and it’s especially tough on a marriage if we aren’t careful and don’t take time to be a couple instead of just “mom & dad.” If I know nothing else about marriage ,it is that it is a constant decision, made every single day, to love the other person whether you feel like it or not. Because, let’s face it, there are some days we just don’t want to. LOL
Great post! I totally agree with everything here.
Thank you, Kathryn!
I love that we both wrote about goals this time around! Goals are hard and scary, especially when we’re not sure if we are ever going to get there.
I am so proud of you for moving forward. I am proud of you and Josh for making this year great. I am so thrilled to hear about how great all the rest of your years will be! xo
I think you summed it up in that first sentence….”Especially when we’re not sure if we are ever going to get there.” it’s hard to put yourself out there like that…to become vulnerable. But, I’m learning that goals and dreams and ambitions that are too strong to stifle are there for a reason. And that they were placed in our hearts for a purpose, by someone who knows much better than we do. 🙂
I didn’t get my act together and write a thiner thursday post yet, but I’m checkin in on y’all. LOVE the new blog design over at Laura’s place. Kudos to both of you. I think all we can ever ask of ourselves or others is that we don’t give up when it feels like we’re trudging along. Refine the goal, refocus our energies, be grateful for how far we’ve come. Then keep moving.
😀 I love the blog design too! Thanks Heidi!
Thank you, Heidi! Laura’s design was SO much fun to create! I think you nailed it…sometimes, when we feel like we aren’t making much progress, we just need to step back and re-evaluate. Then, keep moving forward.