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Contrary to popular belief, I have my moments where I’m not always chipper, happy and positive (I know; hard to believe…).
My grandma told me growing up that the longer I lived the more I’d realize that- life isn’t fair and people aren’t nice, but that as I got older I’d learn not to care. (Okay, her words were actually that I’d learn not to give a sh**, but let’s keep it somewhat PG).
I didn’t realize it then, but she was right. And the older I get, the less I care what people say. Or think. Or do.
But somedays, like yesterday, I wish I was an anonymous blogger so that I could just spill the beans on all of the things that are irking my right now.
Such as…
…the family members who put together a certain project for Christmas and thought to include everyone in our entire family except us. It was painfully obvious we weren’t meant to be included nor welcomed in their doings. Which is fine. Because I have a project of my own up my sleeve that’s pretty much gonna kick a** and take names when I get it done. So, whatever.
…the person who keeps stealing content, ideas, and information from my website and passing it off as their own. I referenced a certain post I wrote about Blogging, Copyright & Plagiarism and it undoubtedly went unnoticed. No worries. I hear there is a thing floating around called karma.
…some real truths about life as a military wife. There are some things that I’d love to complain talk about, but can’t. Just for the sake of the husband’s job. So, as any good Military Wife would do, I just continue to keep my mouth shut.
…people who don’t mind their own business and insist on making everything that goes on in my life and the life of my family the center of their world. I love that you think we’re awesome enough to discuss around your dinner table, but seriously. You’re kind of sad.
…kids who don’t know how to act in public. Ever. And parents who don’t know how to discipline them and continue to turn the other cheek.
…bloggers who are too big for their britches (a term endearingly used by my grandma when she was around). Having lots of readers, subscribers, followers, etc. is great. It’s what we, as bloggers, all strive for. But you aren’t better than anyone else. We really don’t idolize or worship you because you’re a big deal (on your blog). So…let’s just get over ourselves, hmm?
…people who continually look down on those of us who are self-taught in our profession. Whether we’re photographers, designers, or just small business owners, who says that a college degree is required to be successful? Some of the most creative, intellectual and prosperous women I know in various areas of Entrepreneurship are self-taught. Just because they didn’t spend a fortune on a degree (which is AWESOME for those of you who were able to finish college!!) doesn’t mean they aren’t talented and don’t deserve props for making something of themselves.
…those women who sit around complaining about their children ALL. the. time. instead of being grateful for the fact that they have kids. Especially when there are hundreds upon thousands of people who would give anything to have a child and deal with the “headache” that being a mom is. I know we all have bad days and get frustrated with our kids. That’s life and it’s totally normal. But constantly griping about your kids and wanting to pawn them off on someone else? Not cool.
…same for women who continuously put down their husbands. You married him.
But, I can’t talk about those things today.
So I won’t.
Linking up with Shell @ Things I Can’t Say for Pour Your Heart Out.
Well…. I used to pretend I don’t care what other people think but truth is we do. We’re wired that way. To care. So I know some of things are hurtful to you and for that I send prayers of peace up for you. Some of these I think we can all relate to. How unfortunate that someone can’t come up with original content for their own blog. Or that someone can’t find anything better to do than to run their mouths? Jealousy. You got it going on and they don’t. Cry babies.
You’re right. I think to an extent we ALL care what others think, but it’s how we decide to deal with those emotions that matter. I actually feel pretty good about everything that went on with Josh’s family at Christmas. Still slightly frustrating, but over it. I have enough other stuff going on. 🙂 Miss our chats, love!
Oh girl, I totally feel you on these and love that you did a Pet Peeves post :). I was just speaking with another designer the other day and referenced you as an “awesome self-taught designer”, just sayin, lol. My pet peeve comes when people think that they can get Photoshop one day and become a designer the next, it takes LOTS of practice and training which you can totally do in school or out of school or BOTH. Ya know?
Yep. I get it. I have that issue with photographers. And when I sit back and look at my EARLY work and the fact that I thought I could become a photography right away (well, at least within the first few months) I kick myself. WHAT WAS I THINKING?
Some days I wish I could tell my brother-in-law what his wife is really like, and what the entire family really thinks of her. I refuse to call her my SIL, she’s my BIL’s wife.
Oh, do I get it. There are times I wish I could tell certain family members what I really think of them, too. Tell them that no one thinks their as fabulous as they seem to have themselves envisioned. LOL
YES!! Sometimes I would love to be anonymous as well!
AMEN.
I think a lot of us can relate to that list. And as my girls get older, I have to be careful what I say around them too. Sometimes we just need to get things off of our chest though. And I think too that you are great and amazing and I admire you!!! 🙂
Awww, thank you, Laura! I try to keep the negativity and ranting to a minimum around Noah, too. Even though he can’t quite understand what I’m talking about, there is so much negative energy out there. I don’t want to subject him to anymore.
I can definitely relate to some of the things on your list…especially moms who complain continuously about their children and husbands….why bother have a family if all you care to do is complain.
Thanks for sharing the things many of us are afraid to
Trish
EXACTLY! If you aren’t going to do anything but whine about it, then why have a family?
first your blog looks amazing (I normally read on my phone and I’m so glad I got here to SEE it…I love it!)
and this list, (as long as I’m not on it…” is really truly amazing. I am so glad for you that you wrote it and shared it with us, because these are things we all want to say, things we all feel and wish we had the place and time to write them down.
as a woman who is going to turn 42 I agree, I care a whole lot LESS about what people think of me as the years pass. I am who I am …and those who love/like/accept me is enough. And you are too Courtney. I sit in awe of you all day long.
Thank you, Kir! I agree. The older I get, the more that I live and learn, the more that I realize that I am not going to change. I’m who I am and that’s that. You can either like me or not, but I refuse to change for someone else. 🙂 Hope you’re having a wonderful week!
Chuckled thro a few of these, but the family stuff is kind of sad.
Chin up my dear … I am a firm believer in karma too, just wish she would head around a little faster sometimes!
The family stuff is definitely frustrating, but it’s nothing new around here. That’s just how they are. It was frustrating for a few days (and truthfully still annoys the heck out of me if I sit and think about it) but we deal. We’re 5600 miles away, so it’s not like we have to encounter them daily.
I think the things you can’t talk about are things many of us wish we had said too.
Thank you! I definitely agree!
This is an incredibly powerful list. A few years ago I started another blog that was anonymous and private just so I could express some of these same feelings. It’s been good therapy for me. But I do hope one day I can just put it all on my regular blog…where it truly needs to be.
Thank you, Tracy. I tried my hand at a private, anonymous blog last year but just couldn’t keep up with it. I think it’s because I wasn’t getting the feedback and the “I know what you’re going through” encouragement that I get from this site. One day, maybe I’ll reach the point of being able to say whatever, whenever without caring. 🙂