Feature Friday: Baby Sister

I am so happy to have Tina from Life without Pink as my Feature Friday Blogger today! As you can tell by the name of her site, she’s raising boys without a little girl in site. She and I met ages ago it seems, and her blog is always entertaining, thought provoking and insightful. Make sure you guys check her out, because she’s fabulous!

Tina Seitzinger is a work-at-home mom of two very active little boys and the voice behind Life Without Pink. She’s a suburban minivan mama who traded the corporate world to host play dates and go on exciting adventures with her children.  Tina is also the co-founder ofGirls’ Lunch Out {GLO} and the Social Media Marketing & Branding Director for The Momiverse – launching soon! When not writing, tweeting or socializing online, Tina can be found trying a new recipe of the week, watching bad reality TV or playing Super Heroes with her two boys.

 

A few nights ago it started as any typical night.

I made dinner, begged my kids to eat what I made and then had the pleasure of cleaning food off the floor.

After I was finally done the dinner dishes and cleaning up the kitchen, I sat down at the table.

This is when things went into a different direction.

My five year old jumped on my lap and said he wanted to talk.

I’m not sure how the conversation began, but he started talking about wanting a baby sister.

5YO: Mom, I really want a baby sister.

ME: Why?

5YO: Because I have a brother and that’s not enough. I want a sister too. Can you make one for me?

I started to sweat. I wasn’t ready to have “the talk” with him, so I started to explain it as best as I could.

ME: Well, I can’t make a baby by myself. It takes two people, a Mommy and a Daddy.

5YO: I want to call Daddy right now.

We dialed the phone and call my husband at work. My 5 year old started telling him that he really wanted a baby sister.

After a few minutes talking with his Dad and hearing that we probably won’t have another baby, my son hung up the phone.

He threw his hands up to his face and started sobbing.

I stood there in complete shock.

Where did this come from?

My mind started racing.

How do I smooth this over? What should I say to him?

I scooped him up and we sat down on the couch together.

I tried to explain to him that babies can be hard to make and it takes a lot of planning. It also takes a lot of money to raise a baby.

5YO: But Mom, some of my friends have a sister and I feel left out. Don’t you want a baby girl?

My heart ached for him and for me.

ME: Of course I would love a baby girl, but even if I did have another baby it might not be a girl. It could be another boy. We can’t decide that, only God does.

A half hour later, my son was still sobbing for a baby sister.

I had to think fast. We were getting close to bath and bedtime and I knew I had to make things better before it was too late.

My head started to scramble for something to say that would make him feel better.

Before thinking, I blurted out; “Daddy and Mommy are planning on taking you and your brother to Disney World this year. But you know if we had another baby, we wouldn’t be able to go.”

My son looked up at me with big watery eyes.

5YO: We wouldn’t?

ME: Nope. And you want to go meet Mickey right?

5YO: YES!

Before I knew it, he was off the couch dancing around in circles.

This went on for about two minutes until he stopped immediately turned to me and said, “Ok so how about we go to Disney and then when we get home you can have a baby girl.”

And we are back to wanting a baby sister.